When a Stepchild Changes Residence
"I think I want to come live with you, Dad." The stepmom overheard the conversation between her husband and his son. "I want to spend more time with you and Mom said it's okay." Oh boy, thought the stepmom.
It's not uncommon for adolescents who have two biological parents actively involved in their lives, to consider moving in with their nonresidential parent, usually during their teenage years. It is estimated that approximately 20 percent of adolescents change homes during this critical period, either temporarily or long-term.
The move may be perceived as exciting for the nonresidential parent who has longed to have his child live with him. However, the stepparent may be rightfully nervous about the transition. Living with a stepchild is different than having one visit every other week-end.
It's important to address the fears surrounding the anticipated move. Consider the changes that will take place and how you will deal with them. Talk with your stepchild about the expectations and restrictions governing your home.
Find peace through the transition by relying on the Lord to relieve your fears and calm your anxious spirit. The Apostle Paul reminds us of His peace in Philippians 4:6-7: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
We will only find peace when we turn our worries over to God and allow Him to be in control. His Word promises us He will walk through every challenge with us and strengthen us along the way.
Does your stepchild want to live with you? Are you relying on God's promises as you deal with the change?